He's Just Not That Into You

He's Just Not That Into You

The No-excuses Truth to Understanding Guys

Book - 2004
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He says:Oh sure, they say they're busy. They say that they didn't have even a moment in their insanely busy day to pick up the phone. It was just that crazy.All lies. With the advent of cell phones and speed dialing, it is almost impossible not to call you. Sometimes I call people from my pants pocket when I don't even mean to. If I were into you, you would be the bright spot in my horribly busy day. Which would be a day that I would never be too busy to call you.She says:There is something great about knowing that my only job is to be as happy as I can be about my life, and feel as good as I can about myself, and to lead as full and eventful a life as I can, so that it doesn't ever feel like I'm just waiting around for some guy to ask me out. And most importantly, it's good for us all to remember that we don't need to scheme and plot, or beg anyone to ask us out. We're fantastic.For ages women have come together over coffee, cocktails, or late-night phone chats to analyze the puzzling behavior of men. He's afraid to get hurt again.Maybe he doesn't want to ruin the friendship.Maybe he's intimidated by me.He just got out of a relationship.Greg Behrendt and Liz Tuccillo are here to say that -- despite good intentions -- you're wasting your time. Men are not complicated, although they'd like you to think they are. And there are no mixed messages. The truth may be He's just not that into you.Unfortunately guys are too terrified to ever directly tell a woman, "You're not the one." But their actions absolutely show how they feel. He's Just Not That Into You-- based on a popular episode of Sex and the City-- educates otherwise smart women on how to tell when a guy just doesn't like them enough, so they can stop wasting time making excuses for a dead-end relationship.Reexamining familiar scenarios and classic mindsets that keep us in unsatisfying relationships, Behrendt and Tuccillo's wise and wry understanding of the sexes spares women hours of waiting by the phone, obsessing over the details with sympathetic girlfriends, and hoping his mixed messages really mean "I'm in love with you and want to be with you."He's Just Not That Into Youis provocative, hilarious, and, above all, intoxicatingly liberating. It deserves a place on every woman's night table. It knows you're a beautiful, smart, funny woman who deserves better. The next time you feel the need to start "figuring him out," consider the glorious thought that maybe He's just not that into you.And then set yourself loose to go find the one who is.
Publisher: New York : Simon Spotlight Entertainment, c2004.
ISBN: 9780689874741
Branch Call Number: 306. 7 BEH
Characteristics: 165 p.
Additional Contributors: Tuccillo, Liz


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Jessica_c Jan 28, 2016

With so many people on this planet, not all of them will be a good fit, and that's okay! Here's to the inevitable.

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FindingJane Jun 23, 2016

Who can decipher how a man thinks? Another man, who else! Witty, hard-hitting and featuring letters from anxious women about their boyfriends’s baffling behaviors, Mr. Behrendt (first single, now happily married) dissects the various excuses, lies, rationalizations and evasions of boyfriends and shows how a really decent man will cross heaven and earth to be with you and won’t use feeble excuses to escape. Stop kidding yourselves, ladies. If he’s giving mixed messages, one remains clear: he’s just not interested. Ditch him and move on.

Feb 16, 2015

This book was so entertaining, funny, and informative! I wish I had read this earlier! I just loved it!

May 15, 2014

I heard all the hype about this book so I thought I would check it out. I was disappointed. Not as good as I thought it would be.

Mar 01, 2012

A little stereotypical at times, but the title is a good representation of what to expect.

It's an entertaining book, with examples I think most of us can relate to. I expected some of the stereotypes, so I wasn't put off by them.

It's a light read, but entertaining. Overall it is actually fairly good advice, taken with a grain of salt of course!

agenesis Jan 26, 2012

Loved this book. Wished I'd had this advice when I was starting to date. I didn't find it "stereotypical"...any woman who's hoping for a man to one day fall in love with her should read this book, IMHO. Check it out for yourself, women.

Sep 09, 2010

I couldn't finish this book. Too many stereotypes about men. Ugh.

Mar 07, 2010

Lindsay's. I know MANY women that should read this.

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AmandaVollmershausen Jul 16, 2012

"Bad boys are true to their names. They're actually bad. Stop making excuses for him, he's just not that into you"

AmandaVollmershausen Jul 16, 2012

"Here's what guys don't do when they can't live without you: break up with you. This guy is seriously so not into you it's crazy."


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AmandaVollmershausen Jul 16, 2012

This book is a harsh reality check for the women who like to convince themselves that men are sending them 'mixed messages' or are just 'complicated' 'busy' or 'emotionally unavailable'. The book explains bluntly how you know when a guy is 'just not that into you'. It's a fair, hilarious and challenging approach to dating, but somewhat of a controversial approach. It's written in the perspective of a man and a woman, and also uses letters sent in from women who fear that their men are just not into them.

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