Option B

Option B

Facing Adversity, Building Resilience, and Finding Joy

Book - 2017
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#1 New York Times Best Seller
Named a Best Book of 2017 by Barnes & Noble and Amazon

From Facebook's COO and Wharton's top-rated professor, the #1 New York Times best-selling authors of Lean In and Originals: a powerful, inspiring, and practical book about building resilience and moving forward after life's inevitable setbacks.

After the sudden death of her husband, Sheryl Sandberg felt certain that she and her children would never feel pure joy again. "I was in 'the void,'" she writes, "a vast emptiness that fills your heart and lungs and restricts your ability to think or even breathe." Her friend Adam Grant, a psychologist at Wharton, told her there are concrete steps people can take to recover and rebound from life-shattering experiences. We are not born with a fixed amount of resilience. It is a muscle that everyone can build.
Option B combines Sheryl's personal insights with Adam's eye-opening research on finding strength in the face of adversity. Beginning with the gut-wrenching moment when she finds her husband, Dave Goldberg, collapsed on a gym floor, Sheryl opens up her heart--and her journal--to describe the acute grief and isolation she felt in the wake of his death. But Option B goes beyond Sheryl's loss to explore how a broad range of people have overcome hardships including illness, job loss, sexual assault, natural disasters, and the violence of war. Their stories reveal the capacity of the human spirit to persevere . . . and to rediscover joy.
Resilience comes from deep within us and from support outside us. Even after the most devastating events, it is possible to grow by finding deeper meaning and gaining greater appreciation in our lives. Option B illuminates how to help others in crisis, develop compassion for ourselves, raise strong children, and create resilient families, communities, and workplaces. Many of these lessons can be applied to everyday struggles, allowing us to brave whatever lies ahead. Two weeks after losing her husband, Sheryl was preparing for a father-child activity. "I want Dave," she cried. Her friend replied, "Option A is not available," and then promised to help her make the most of Option B.
We all live some form of Option B. This book will help us all make the most of it.
Publisher: New York, New York :, Alfred A. Knopf,, 2017, ©2017.
Edition: First edition.
ISBN: 9781524732684
Branch Call Number: 155. 937 SAN
Characteristics: 226 pages : illustrations ; 25 cm
Additional Contributors: Grant, Adam (Psychologist)- Author


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Jul 15, 2019

WOW! what a book! What a very resilient woman, wife, mom, powerful woman. But gives you an excellent example- in times of a sudden death of a loved one.

Oct 01, 2018

Most of the book is very painful to read. The authoress writes in detail about the deep pain she and others she knew went through.

The "how to" parts of the book were buried in the stories and hard to find by skimming. So I gave up finishing the book.

Who was the authoress serving in providing so much painful detail?

Good topic, I wish I wasn't made to suffer to get the information on recovery tools. Hopefully someone else will write a book on this topic that is less miserable to read.

Jul 14, 2018

Sheryl Sandberg shares her gut-wrenching story with complete candor and honesty. It makes me as a husband and father of three cherish my family and my blessings, and reflect that in an instant it could be all gone. Sheryl shares her journey of the first two years after her loss, learning to grieve, to become resilient and move forward with her new "Option B." This book had much insight not only on grief and loss, but was helpful to be considerate and thoughtful when others around you have lost someone. It helps me to see as a parent how to help raise resilient kids who could endure hardships and tragedy. It helps me reflect on areas I need to show myself compassion and forgive myself to heal. This was an amazing book and a must read.

Apr 10, 2018

Too much blah, blah, blah, blah, blah. I couldn't get into it.

Dec 17, 2017

Option B is the path someone is forced to take after something has gone horribly wrong. There are many heartbreaking moments in this book about the devastating loss Sheryl Sandberg suffered after her husband died. In Lean In she wrote about how supportive her husband David was, and this book is about her life after he's gone. The most poignant parts are about her children, and how she worries about helping them with their grief when she is in so much pain herself.

Nov 08, 2017

This is an example of a short essay that they've tried to expand into a book. A corporate elite suffers a human tragedy, shucks. Her wooden counselor adds some pointless material. It all descends into PC mush. Don't waste your time.

Oct 28, 2017

Sheryl Sandberg is the COO of one of the largest companies in the world. That fact does not exclude her from one of the biggest heartbreaks of life--the sudden loss of her husband. In writing this book, "Option B" with Adam Grant she takes the reader on an intimate journey into the experience from the moment of his death to the next twelve months, telling us how she transitioned from the initial shock, grief and difficulty coping to the place where she is now. What I loved about the book is how Sheryl's intelligence, vulnerabilities and courage came through. This is a woman who's corporate personae is not diminished by her candour. Each step of the way (and all the slips backwards) she provides anecdotes supported by coping methods that helped her get through each day; the parent teacher conferences without her husband, the first birthday without her husband, all the social events and important work challenges without her life partner and friend. This is a book about "facing adversity, building resilience and finding joy" again.

ontherideau Oct 09, 2017

Interesting points made . The author is right that not all people deal with grief the same way.
I have had my share of loss and heartbreak but prefer talking with close friends only. Maybe the difference between an introvert and extrovert but sometimes a person does forget the tragedy for a minute or two and then someone comes along and opens the wound with a question.

Oct 03, 2017

Informative read for those of us with gray hair. A revealing book about how one woman coped with the sudden death of her husband, grieving and adjusting to a new reality.

Sep 20, 2017

I went through a tough time with the loss of a relative and a relationship at the same time. I wish it was written earlier so I could have felt normal when I was going through so much grief. I can relate to alot of what she said.

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