Messy Grace

Messy Grace

How A Pastor With Gay Parents Learned to Love Others Without Sacrificing Conviction

Book - 2015
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Sometimes, grace gets messy.

Caleb Kaltenbach was raised by LGBT parents, marched in gay pride parades as a youngster, and experienced firsthand the hatred and bitterness of some Christians toward his family.

But then Caleb surprised everyone, including himself, by becoming a Christian...and a pastor.

Very few issues in Christianity are as divisive as the acceptance of the LGBT community in the church. As a pastor and as a person with beloved family members living a gay lifestyle, Caleb had to face this issue with courage and grace.

Messy Grace shows us that Jesus's command to "love your neighbor as yourself" doesn't have an exception clause for a gay "neighbor"--or for that matter, any other "neighbor" we might find it hard to relate to. Jesus was able to love these people and yet still hold on to his beliefs. So can you. Even when it's messy.

"Messy Grace is an important contribution to the conversation about sexual identity for churches and leaders. Caleb's story is surprising and unique, and he weaves it together compellingly. He states his views clearly, leaves room for disagreement, and champions love no matter where you are in this conversation."
--Jud Wilhite, Sr. Pastor, Central Christian Church
Publisher: Colorado Springs, Colorado :, WaterBrook Press,, 2015, ©2015.
Edition: First edition.
ISBN: 9781601427366
Branch Call Number: 248. 4 KAL
Characteristics: xii, 211 pages ; 21 cm


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Jul 06, 2016

The Church has been taught to stand up for what we believe in. I don't think we've been taught "well." We can engage with the LGBT community without compromising our convictions. Kaltenbach writes from a unique perspective. He calls his mom "loud and proud," while his dad remained hidden for years--but both gay. He's seen the ugly treatment that gay people have endured and he's seen people who love gays, but don't know how to live that out and still keep their convictions. Kaltenbach writes to both sides of a sensitive issue, and does a good job.

Jun 27, 2016

Both Caleb's unique experience and engaging style are highlights in this thought-provoking book about the church and how to love it's diverse members. Who are the diverse members? Anyone that is not "us." While the main focus are LBGTQ persons, they are not the only folks being left out of the church. I recommend this book for those who know what the bible says, but don't like it, for those who don't believe what it says, as well as those who wonder what it's truth means in their own life and the lives of those they love. Its messy, in a good way.

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